Life is all about meeting the right people4 min de lecture
Someone told me there’s no such thing as luck.
I might understand the fact that you create your own luck. But there is always elements you don’t control and that are almost completely random.
For instance, who you meet in life.
Sometimes I believe that life has driven me somewhere so I could just meet one or two people that are going to have a major impact on my life.
And that is what I want to talk to you about today.
I’m going to dig in some personal experience for this one.
Let’s take an example.
Four years ago, I was looking for a new job – what I was doing wasn’t fulfilling, I needed some new challenges. I got an offer from another company and was really excited about it BUT I got a phone call from a very interesting music company – knowing that music is very important in my life – which I had applied to around the same time as the other one. So I went to the first interview, I did the test, went to the second interview, and was almost there… this sounded like the job of my dreams and I was so excited. But – because life is a b****, or because it was simply not meant to be – I didn’t get it. I was this close (you just have to imagine a very angry me holding two fingers very close to one another).
Anyway, at that point, you might have figured, I was quite disappointed.
So I went to my new job, nonetheless happy. It was great until it wasn’t anymore.
BUT – and that’s a very important but – there I met my new partner in crime, i.e. the person with whom I launched my workshops at the end of last year.
So, even though the experience wasn’t easy, it was 1/ educative, 2/ enriching, both professionally and personally, 3/ it allowed me to meet someone who is today so important in my life.
What I’m trying to say here is that life isn’t about money, jobs, looks, power, glory… Life is about relationships. This is something I’m convinced of.
Passion is what drives us, and what is passion but a relationship? Even if it’s with an art – music, writing, painting… – it’s still a relationship and is usually linked to someone – and sometimes this person can be yourself.
Any artist will tell you: they create with their guts. Art is something personal. I know that writing is easy and hard for me: it’s easy to write, hard to share, because it is so personal.
That’s why how you treat people is so important: I’m not saying to calculate everything you do, I’m saying think about it: when someone does something nice for you, don’t you feel like doing the same for them? You reap what you sow.
One meeting can change your life: it can be someone who believes in you and will push you to be your better self, it can be your future partner whom you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, it can be this therapist who helped you overcome your fears and/or problems…
Your entourage is very important: if you surround yourself with toxic people, they will drain the energy out of you; if you surround yourself with negative people, you’ll have a tendency to be depressed; and if you surround yourself with positive people, they will brighten your day.
Don’t you have this (these) friend(s) that, when you see or talk to them, everything feels better? That, when you leave them, you feel happy and smiley? I know I do and these people are very precious to me.
I really believe that relationships, people, meetings, are what’s most important in one’s life.
We all pursue some ghost of success or happiness. Truth is, these are just ghosts. I’m not saying they won’t make you feel good or give you a sense of achievement. I’m saying that if you don’t have anybody to share it with, what’s the point? Humans are social animals: we need one another to survive.
Life is short, and too short to be spent with people you hate, or all alone.